Teens Dos and Don'ts


The following was in my original 1998 memoir manuscript. It and other items disappeared over time. Teenage grandchildren helped it surface. They each got a copy and a followup query. "I like it," said the 17-yr-old granddaughter. At a recent presentation I offered it to a group of seniors to pass on to their grands. When I learned extra copies were printed I queried some of the seniors. Both men and women sheepishly said, "It works for us, too." That surprised me.

AUNT SARAH'S YOUTH THINGS TO DO

Keep your real friends

Feel comfortable with your date – like you are equals

Visit your date’s home as much as your date visits your home

Clue: picking up your date isn’t a visit, eating dinner there is

Stay in extra activities: youth club, church, sports

Double date when possible

Keep your identity by creating an image you’re comfortable with

Keep busy: FREE TIME=PLAYTIME=TROUBLE TIME

Get a mentor and communicate your feelings out loud

Stay healthy: eat good food, get enough rest, exercise regularly, get physicals including

blood tests, dental and vision check-ups

Attend student activities: sports, dances, and concerts

Be active at school: student government, newspaper/annual, skits, choir/band,

orchestra, theater, sports; there’s something for each student

Relate to real and inanimate objects: stuffed animals, diary/journal, family pets listen too

Love your family by helping out at home: wash cars, rake leaves, dust,

fold clothes, wash dishes, put away groceries, mow lawn, and help with younger siblings

Be law-abiding citizens

Believe in God or have a faith system at work

Have a strong mind, spirit and body

Think before you act

Own a toolbox with wrench, hammer, pliers, screw driver, battery cables, and a battery

charger.Tools are mandatory whether you are boy or girl, car owner or rider

Enjoy being young – smile, laugh, giggle whenever the moods hits

Tell your guardian where you’re going, who you’re with and when you’re coming back

Learn to LET GO of a relationship by believing there are other people to meet

YOUTH THINGS NOT TO DO

Stay our past 12 Midnight, 11 PM is better

Stay overnight at your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s house

Accept gifts over a certain value – say $30.00 maximum

Take off your clothes…or anything else

Use restroom with your date standing next to you

Keep quiet if you think what you’re doing is wrong

Cry a lot or feel like crying often - MENTOR NEEDED

Stay with one steady more than one school semester, 4 months maximum

Break PDA (Public Display of Affection) rule

Sex

Alcohol

Drugs

Smoke

Be rude to your parents, relatives, teachers, coaches, and other adults

Quit on life: drop out of school, shrink inside yourself

Compromise against your instincts

Believe your first girlfriend/boyfriend is forever

Why read this? BECAUSE AUNT SARAH GREW UP WITHOUT GUIDELINES

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